Introverts don't exist?
Some time ago I realized that it is very difficult for me to be successful and effective if you do not know how to communicate with other people with words through your mouth. For example, I started studying Product Management and realized that I need to communicate a lot with people and do interviews. Or else, I was looking for part-time work through acquaintance at events, but sometimes I could not give out a single business card and left with nothing.
However, like most programmers, I can also be conditionally called an introvert, but now I still decided to write this article and reveal myself. And even made a speaker with this topic at the TabTabus IT festival in Smolensk. How did I come to this life, you ask? It's all about self-esteem.
Today I’ll talk to you about the following topics: the problems of the typical introvert programmer and how I solved them, methods for upgrading self-esteem, ways to solve uniqueness. I will not tell you a bare theory, but what I myself have applied and lived.
You need this if you want to build an effective career, develop to a leader, launch a startup or assemble a team for a hackathon competition, improve your personal life.
A little about me: I graduated from Baumanka in 2013, I am a typical IT specialist, and in my senior years I got into the 1C Rarus internship program, passed the selection and worked there for two years. Now I am engaged in the automation of business processes in a large company. I have many different hobbies, among them networking at business events, I am interested in psychology.
A bit of theory
Carl Jung coined the term Introvert. But what he was talking about has nothing to do with shyness and isolation, but only about the direction of your internal energy. For introverts, it is focused on mental activity within oneself, and for extroverts, on external objects. And what is usually associated with the concept of an introvert - isolation, shyness, taciturnity - is a consequence of your fears and low self-esteem.
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It is important to protect your personal boundaries. Of course, first you need to realize them: to understand how it is impossible with you and how it is necessary with you. And when others, regardless of the reason, step on your boundaries, you need to protect them. Revealing personal boundaries is a topic for another article!
This concludes my article. I hope you were interested. I would like to especially acknowledge the contribution of my wife Natalie and my motivational mentor Olya, who helped me write this text.
The article was written based on my speech in August 2020 at the TabTabus IT festival in Smolensk.