Foreword
Earlier, very often I was at a loss when I say something to the interlocutor, but he cannot understand me. "After all, I say everything is logical" - such thoughts sat in my head. And it didn't immediately dawned on me that it was logically in MY head, and not in the head of the interlocutor. We live different lives, we have different environments, different perceptions of the world, different value systems. Therefore, sometimes a conversation in one language develops into the fact that two people cannot understand each other, as if they speak different dialects.
Formulation of the problem
Try to say the word “program” to IT and event people. Ask what associations they have. Most likely the first will answer about the software, the second will say about the program of the event. Show the spacecraft to the artist and the engineer and see who will pay attention to what. The first will look at how this device looks, the second will try to understand how it works.
Different people pay attention to different things and focus on different things.
When at work we explain to the boss how great it would be to introduce a new expensive feature that will delight users or speed up our website (program), the question arises whether it is really needed. The boss needs to be told about how much money this new feature will bring, how it will increase user loyalty, and how it will be possible to reduce equipment costs.
This can be encountered during the educational process. When a professor lectures to students, he, due to the fact that he is highly educated, pays little attention to simple things. Why? Because they are elementary for the professor, he came across them many times and they are very basic for him. But he forgets that he does not read for the same professors, but for inexperienced students who are just mastering the course and for these these things are not always given as easy as their lecturer.
In general: our interlocutors are not us. They may think differently, and other things may be important to them.
And what to do with this, actually
You need to learn to put yourself in the place of another person and develop the ability to empathy. You can usually figure out what things are worth focusing on when you want to convey a message to a person as clearly as possible.
For example: I have a 9th grade student who is studying music. She had to give examples of algorithms and explain what it is. Standard definitions and examples from textbooks did not really clarify what it is, for one simple reason - she was not interested. And for this there was no feeling of need and for her it was not important. Can be repeated 10, 20, 30 times. There will be zero sense. Therefore, I gave a simple example for her, with which she constantly worked: a piece of music. With an example that was understandable and important to HER, the topic was learned much easier. And with other students, I began to do the same, give athletes examples with the trajectory of tricks, guys who are engaged in yachting with yachts, etc. Oddly enough, everyone understood the topics much faster than using examples that were not particularly interesting to them and, most importantly, of better quality.
This principle worked for me and with explanations of topics for classmates. When I had to explain the OOP principle to the girl on Instagram profiles. And in work, when I did not refuse to perform a difficult task because it was technically difficult and not so important, but I told the employer the terms and cost.
Outcome
We are all different people. Therefore, when communicating, one must try to choose words that are understandable and close, first of all, for the interlocutor. Otherwise, what's the point of conducting a dialogue in a language incomprehensible to another person. It's easier then to discuss issues with a rubber duck.
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